“Men want to marry an angel but in bed they want a slut”
This idea comes from a very limited understanding of sex and from the idea that the woman should seduce the man to arouse his sexual energy. Deep down in every man there is a strong fear of not being aroused, so men are always looking for something that will stimulate arousal instantly without effort. This means that the most important thing is some kind of seductive element, like in pornography or when women use sexy seductive underwear or express seductive behaviour. This will immediately stimulate arousal. But of course in many respects a man would not be happy with a wife or girlfriend who would exhibit this type of behaviour as this would mean she could seduce other men as well.
And as long as the man doesn’t know of other ways to experience love and being aroused – if he doesn’t know what it means to be aroused by an angel, by angelic behaviour! – he doesn’t know these other possibilities. The angelic behaviour shows no element of seduction but true adoration of the man. The woman touches the man with an angelic face, with a smile, with care, with a lot of love, like a mother touching her baby. Most men never experience this type of arousal.
The belief that the woman should be this angel in all other respects but when it comes to sex and moving into the bedroom she needs to become a horny, seductive slut is not true in my experience. For 20 years I have worked with men and all this time I have presented myself as an angel. I would never have been able to love myself if I had played the games of seduction. I always wanted to create in the man’s heart great respect, love and care towards my body.
When a man gets triggered by seduction, when he gets aroused by seductive behaviour, he can become quite brutal towards the woman and behave in an unrespectful way, even causing the woman pain. In my work I always wanted to protect my body from this attitude in men and the only way to do it is to be an angel! To bring the man to this angelic world where he will be aroused from soft, gentle touch. Where he will experience his body as a sensual, loving and loved body. Then he will treat the female body in the same way.
In a relationship it is possible all through life to be in love with each other, to be sexually active and enjoy the sexual life only if you are both angels. If you start to play seductive games it will never last. It will always lead you to disrespect and abuse of each others emotions, bodies and energies and will eventually destroy your love and relationship.
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