REAL WOMEN ARE EVERYWHERE!

couple kissMen have a very strong desire to touch a woman. This is the man’s nature. There is nothing wrong with that. What is wrong is their attitude to women. And as the result of that, the quality of the male touch is often not pleasant for women.

Men often do not see a person inside a female body. They see just the shape of the woman’s body, female forms or just sexual organs which obviously excite them, and that they immediately want to touch. I can compare this male compulsion with the desire of a baby to touch something that has caught its attention: a toy, a dog, a cat, a person. A baby touches without any attention to what his/her hand is actually doing, a baby’s hand just grabs, squeezes, scratches. Men often touch women the same way. They just want to feel a female body by their hands or other parts of their bodies. And as a result they just use a female body for their pleasure, meanwhile giving no pleasure to their women.

Often men stimulate a female body as if they are imputing in to a computer. They are looking for the right keys instead of loving a person, instead of feeling what this person inside the female body senses. Men rarely follow the sense of connection and mutual care. They stimulate their women to orgasm and feel proud of that: they have found the right key! Their women tolerate it, as they often have no choice, but eventually they start to feel more and more disconnected to their men. They feel something is missing. The job of “finding and pushing the key to bring them to orgasm” does not make them happy.

There are no definite tips or secrets on how to make a woman sexually happy, there are no tricks to give a woman pleasure. Instead, there is a process which a man has to create every time he is with his woman. He has to be like a pianist, who every time creates a process of playing music for the audience to enjoy. Men have to give up all these beliefs in tips and tricks, which are so common on the internet. They need to completely isolate themselves from negative porn images. They need to see real women, real people, living in real female bodies. They live here in this world, not on the screen. They walk streets, travel on the tube, fly in planes, shop. Real women are everywhere! Real women have heads full of ideas, hearts open for love, and bodies ready for loving, caring and sensual contact. Women are not “pussies”, “boobs” or “asses”! Women are people!

A MAN! You can only know what to do to your woman when you continuously listen to her female body and make the next caring and loving action towards it according to its reaction. Of course you need to learn, like any pianist, how to create this kind of loving and caring touch and movement. You need to learn how to deal with your biologically programmed mechanism of driving your body to unpleasant and even brutal movements, which can even hurt the female body. You have to learn many things about creating the art of physical love. Only by developing yourself in that direction will you be able to bring into your life the lasting magic of lovemaking. Yet this magic is only possible if nothing is predicted, imagined and planned in the form of a goal.

A lot of loving attention to each other during lovemaking is the first key. A lot of love and care is the second key.

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I also want to introduce you to an amazing teacher of loving touch, Alexey Kuzmin, who is also working in central London, UK. Go to his website: www.tantrictherapy.co.uk. Come, together with your man or your woman, to his individual couples workshop. He will teach you how to take your partner to another world!

About Grief…

sadGrief… Somebody from the close family has died. Most couples would avoid sexual contact for many days or even months after the tragedy has happened. They would let sad emotions dominate over their life and over their love. “How is it possible to have sex, when the grief is there?” – a lot of people would think, “It is not the right moment for sex!”

Sexual contact is mainly considered as an expression of happiness, energy, love in its best “sunny moments”. Sex is mostly presented as fun, excitement, play, joy. Orgasms are considered as a result of such pleasant timing, pleasant stimulations of body parts and sensors creating arousal. But, pity that people hardly ever discover during their life the healing and therapeutic power of human sexuality. At the time of grief the couple can become the best therapist for each other using sexual energy as a fire that heats the “body water” and evaporates the sadness. Sensual and sexual contact between a man and a woman when both are in emotional pain is like a counselor who speaks a different language, subconscious language, loving and comforting physical language. Reflexes of our body influence our emotions. We give cuddles to our children when they are sad or unhappy. We can give special sexual “cuddles” to each other when we are sad. When we start to change our moods on the physical level we bring changes to out psychology. If the couple know how to relax each other and then how to start having sensual and sexual contact, bringing into it a means of supporting each other, sharing grief together, empowering each other’s energy for life (life has to continue despite our grief!), the couple can open a huge source of relief at this difficult time for both of them. Their sexuality would become the healer which can be more potent then that of a psychiatrist or counselor operating on a logical level which mostly refers to the brain. Emotions are in the heart. The brain can do nothing about them. Sexual energy which rises from the body but flows through the heart (if people learn Tantric sexuality) creates a stream which can clean away “heavy” emotions and replace them with positive, optimistic ones. The event of the tragedy cannot be changer. But, the attitude to the tragedy can be changed. Healing sexuality can change the attitude to the tragedy, can bring acceptance and open the way out of sadness.

If sadness takes place over too long a time and closes the door to each other’s world of physical love it could be difficult to restore sexual connection again. It could even change the relationship of the couple forever. Do not stop touching each other in a sensual and sexual way in the time of grief, do not let your grief cause you to both grow apart, do share your love and your grief in Tantric lovemaking.

Women want ‘a ready man’ who already knows…

OSad-Couplene of readers of my blog has send me a message: ‘Indeed… Women are flowers of life.. Thank you for the insights. What do you think of women who say they want ‘a ready man’ who already knows how to please them?’

What do I think of women like that? I think that they will never be happy, they will never find a man who already knows how to give them pleasure because the female body and psycho in particular is not the same as it was before even yesterday. A male body is easier to get what we call ‘orgasm’, though ‘orgasm’ does not mean sexual happiness. Female sexual happiness does not depend on orgasm at all.

So, a man can be easily confused and lost in his trying to please his woman, unless she initiates the things she wants to feel. Every woman needs to be open about how she feels. She needs to learn to recognise her needs clearly and to communicate them to her man. Using her own body she needs to create for herself the right mood, tempo, touch. Via creating an example which her man can follow she can educate him in giving her pleasure. Only following her body language a man can understand her body and do what she wants him to do.

This body language is not given to us, humans, by birth. This language is called the art of sensuality and love-making. Any woman is much better in speaking this language because the nature of her body is more sensual by definition. She needs to open this language in herself, master it into a great art of loving her man and lead her man into this world. A man always is physically clumsier, he always is less sensual by the fact that his skin has 60 times less nerve endings than female skin.

So, only a woman can be a director of this art. It does not mean that a man cannot be initiative and creative in such art. He can! Very much so! But he needs to learn in from his woman first. HIS PARTICULAR WOMAN! The another woman has different sensitivity.

So there are NO ‘ready men’ for sexual happiness of a woman. A woman always has to make a man-lover for herself.

4 GROUPS OF LOVE-MAKING ELEMENTS

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Most men and women believe that in order to be considered as a good lovers they need only to know how to bring their partners to orgasm. That simple orientations brings many couples to the point when they feel worry about their ability and energy capacity to achieve orgasm themselves or to bring their partners to orgasm. Couples feel lack or desire to have sex, low energy, they develop the sense of disconnection with each other and so on… all negative feelings. Tips and tricks from Internet offering tools for getting arousal would not work for long.

TO BECOME A MASTER-LOVER YOU NEED TO DEVELOP THE FOLLOWING 4 GROUPS OF LOVE-MAKING ELEMENTS:

 

TOUCHES

Touches are kissing, holding, stroking, contact via different parts of the body. Most of men and women do not pay attention to all these touches and so do not know how to create the sense of love, connection and sexual desire via touch. There are many touches for you to learn as this skill does not comes naturally. Learning them you can make your love life much more colourful. 

MASSAGES

Massages are special techniques applied to different parts of the body to create the right intensity of energy and the sense of care between partners. Massages are a very important part of lovemaking. Yet, most men and women do not do massages rightly. Learn different sensual and erotic massages. They are a special expression of your love, as well as a beautiful energy work. 

MOVEMENTS

The way partners move their bodies during lovemaking makes a huge impact on the level of energy of arousal and can dramatically effect the sense of love, connection and sexual desire: empower it or kill it. Instinct always drives us to move fast and rough. Instinct is a killer of feelings and sensations. Moving slowly and gently is like walking a magical road, the road of love. 

INTERCOURSE

Intercourse is a very complicated process if you want to create the sense of love and connection as well as gaining the energy instead of loosing it at the end. It has a lot of elements which most men and women do not consider as they know nothing about them. Become educated and trained in all these elements and you transform intercourse into happiest experience always for both. 

COMBINING THESE ELEMENTS, USING THEM IN DIFFERENT DAYS ACCORDING TO THE STATE OF THE MIND AND BODY PHYSICAL ENERGY EVERY COUPLE CAN HAVE HEALTHY AND HAPPY SEXUAL LIFE.

A lot of men believe that they are very tactile and sensual…

A lot of men believe that they are very tactile and sensual. ‘I love touching a woman’s body’, many men would say. Yet, they do not consider that they also have to be present with their women but not live in their own fantasies about touching a female body. A lot of men touch the female body just for their own pleasure, even if they would not agree with that. And, in a way, they like to touch women with no consideration of what women may feel. An average man does not think about that there is a person inside the female body, and this person wants to feel right in her own body. Every woman has different sensitivity. Every woman has different state of her body and mind in different days. And also every woman wants to fee loved and cared of, when she is touched but not just stimulated.

The female body provides a very nice tactile sensation for a man’s hand, and so to his brain. Female shape, smoothness of female skin excites a man, it creates arousal in his body. Yet, this should not be the main reason for a man to touch a woman. Most men would say: ‘This is not the reason why I want to touch my woman! I touch my woman for her! I want her to feel good and happy! I want to give her pleasure, that’s why I touch her!’ Yes, a man could have a good intention, but in reality of physical body he can produce the wrong and not very pleasant touch.

Today we live in a highly developed society. We do not want to use sexual energy only for reproductive purpose. Women are no longer dependant on men and they too want to be sexually happy. So, every man needs to be educated in two things: 1. How to manage his sexual energy, 2. How truly love the female body.

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