One of readers of my blog has send me a message: ‘Indeed… Women are flowers of life.. Thank you for the insights. What do you think of women who say they want ‘a ready man’ who already knows how to please them?’
What do I think of women like that? I think that they will never be happy, they will never find a man who already knows how to give them pleasure because the female body and psycho in particular is not the same as it was before even yesterday. A male body is easier to get what we call ‘orgasm’, though ‘orgasm’ does not mean sexual happiness. Female sexual happiness does not depend on orgasm at all.
So, a man can be easily confused and lost in his trying to please his woman, unless she initiates the things she wants to feel. Every woman needs to be open about how she feels. She needs to learn to recognise her needs clearly and to communicate them to her man. Using her own body she needs to create for herself the right mood, tempo, touch. Via creating an example which her man can follow she can educate him in giving her pleasure. Only following her body language a man can understand her body and do what she wants him to do.
This body language is not given to us, humans, by birth. This language is called the art of sensuality and love-making. Any woman is much better in speaking this language because the nature of her body is more sensual by definition. She needs to open this language in herself, master it into a great art of loving her man and lead her man into this world. A man always is physically clumsier, he always is less sensual by the fact that his skin has 60 times less nerve endings than female skin.
So, only a woman can be a director of this art. It does not mean that a man cannot be initiative and creative in such art. He can! Very much so! But he needs to learn in from his woman first. HIS PARTICULAR WOMAN! The another woman has different sensitivity.
So there are NO ‘ready men’ for sexual happiness of a woman. A woman always has to make a man-lover for herself.