Factors which create the negative effect in your love life

  • Judging your own body performance and your partner’s.
  • Making your partner feel that he/she haven’t satisfied you.
  • Comparing your partner’s body sensitivity with other people’s bodies.
  • Telling your partner about your experiences with others, no matter good or bad.
  • Holding back expression of love and affection.
  • Expecting from your partner more than he/she can do.
  • Relaying on spontaneity of your love expression.
  • Making other areas of your life more important than intimacy.
  • Expecting that your partner must think, feel and act the same way as you do.
  • Manipulating your partner to get what you want.

Intimate relationships is the most delicate and fragile place in your relationship. This is the area of your life with your partner where you have to look after each other, where you have to care of your partner.

Men and women do not realise that physical body subconsciously dictate us to protect ourselves. Intimacy is the place where we use our physical body a great deal. Mainstream tips what is good for intimacy can not work for many people, especially women. Physical body does not understand logic. Physical body lives on senses. It can only feel good or bad, comfortable or not, it can feel pain or pleasure. It just feels! And no philosophy or theory can make the physical body feel this or that way. It only can react on impact produced upon it. Many men and women often are focused too much during intimacy moments on their own sensations, on their own bodies. They just “want” to feel certain sensations. They do not understand that they are breaking the fundamental law of love which is making the partner happy. Many people, especially men, make wrong assumption of what makes their partners happy. Often they produce on their partners’ bodies the impact which does not create sense of pleasure, care or affection, but opposite, negative reaction. Touching somebody’s body is an art, all people should learn and develop, just like a musician develops the art to touching the piano keys to make a nice sound.

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Couples in crisis

Couples came to me in almost a crisis and after the first session they see that their problems were misleading information about sex and intimacy received from outside world.

Every couples problem is totally unique. Yes, the information most people get about sex from the very early age is very misleading and makes them be totally incommunicable with their partner about how they feel because of fear of hurting the partner’s feelings. I help the couple to understand that their bodies are sensitive and needs to be explored and treated accordingly to its sensitivity. There should be no such things between two people how love each other as body performance. Each body has different energy at different moment of life and this energy just has to be considered. If a man has no erection it does not mean that he is not attracted to a woman. If a woman hasn’t achieved orgasm it does not mean that she is sexually unhappy or unsatisfied. And the opposite: presence of a good erection does not mean that a man loves a woman and cares of her, and the reaching an orgasm does not mean that a person really expressed love or received love. Men and women need to become more intelligent in sex and every time decide what they want to do in sex according to their emotional and physical states. And these states fluctuate every day. Every couple needs to learn to recognize each other’s needs for this particular day. Also all needs need to be adjusted to the lower level. What this means is the partner who is more energetic and emotionally uplifted should be more gentle and soft towards the partner, who is more tired or less emotionally balanced. In my teaching every couple receives a totally different approach to their problem, but the main direction is the same, giving partners tools for such body-to-body communication which brings them both to comfortable and happy state as a result of sexual practice. Making love is a very powerful way to get over any crisis in couple’s life. We can health mind via body and vice versa.

How sexual problems rise

 

Very often people hesitate to come and to see me in fear of what they might find about themselves or about each other of they are couples as most people never talk to anyone about how they feel in sex. Most people do not understand that sex cannot be viewed as a psychological problem. This is what all psychiatrist state. All sexual problems are rooted in physical body. None of people have sexual problems. Nobody needs to be fixed. There is nothing wrong with any man or any woman. It is all about physical body sensitivity. This sensitivity need to be respected, cared of and explored in order to create in physical body the sense of pleasure, which starts from creating the sense of comfort. What most men and women are trying to do is to become an owner of some another physical body, not the body they have now and here at this particular moment. They want the body which is aroused, or which is providing a certain sensation to their brains… So, they do not accept and enjoy what they have, they want from themselves to feel something else, as well as they force the partner to feel something else. But, nobody can force feelings. Nobody can feel pleasure when there are a lot of worries and demands from yourself or from the other person. Yet, most people create these demands every time they want to be physically close with each other. This is how sexual problems rise.

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